What is evolution? How do we define it? Do we stop at Darwin’s definition?

For me, the real successful evolution is whenever kids do a better job than their parents in raising their own kids!

How can this upward trend happen? The way I look at it is to give our kids all the things that came from our parents that felt good to us (by this I do not mean cookies, soda and junk food 😁 but the feeling of love and respect) and improve on the things that did not seem right.

Early childhood and adolescence are extremely important in the upbringing of a child. Our kids need their parent’s support. We need to raise them to be strong, to be able to maneuver the ups and downs of life, as well as instill accountability for their actions without entitlement.

Then, when they become young adults, with the strong base that we gave them, they will find their own way which might be different than us…as Gibran Khalil Gibran said in his book, The Prophet: “You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

This is the real evolution!

Unfortunately, not all parents are in a position to do what I talked about. But, even a small improvement in a generation will do…it might take more time but ultimately, enlightenment will reach us all.

During my OB years, I took care a few young pregnant women who were impressive. One of them told me one day, in Room 1, something I will never forget: “my dad is in jail, my mom uses drugs but I decided to forge a different path for myself: although I am pregnant, I work, I go to school and a I live a healthy life”. I told her that I was so proud of her!

Also, I want to give credit to the grandmothers who have played an important role in caring for their grandkids when the parents fail to.

On the other hand (my son tells me this a very French expression 😂), I cannot fathom even the thought of seeing some men spread their genetic material, make babies, and not be involved in their lives!

I am looking for comments on my post, whether you agree or disagree with me. You can comment on my Facebook post about it.

I will be talking in the future about other deep topics in our society and want your input…so, stay tuned 😀.